Maybe you’re not finding the answer because you’re asking the wrong questions.
So instead of asking:
How can I find a good friend?
Ask:
What can I do to be a good friend?
Instead of asking:
How can I find the right person?
Ask:
What can I do to be the right person for someone?
Instead of asking:
Why will nobody help me?
Ask:
What can I do to be of help and support?
Instead of asking:
Why do I feel so lonely?
Ask:
What can I do on my own?
Instead of asking:
What do I expect from life?
Ask:
What does life expect from me?