I’m surrounded by people. We talk to each other, but I only hear silence. As I lonely languished in the house I felt uncomfortable while imagining my friends having fun. I saw their laughter and expected the despair and feeling of incompleteness to disappear by socializing. I had a feeling I was going to miss the opportunity.
But even while I was hanging out with people, the feeling I was trying to cover up was still present. It was at that moment that I realized we shared one thing: we refuse to face the loneliness and responsibility that awaits us.
And then I wonder: How is it that we are surrounded by people and yet feel lonely? And why do we run away from loneliness?
Voices tell us we are not good enough. We feel suffering in loneliness and our thoughts persist in showing our imperfections. We want to fill the feeling of emptiness and incompleteness in ourselves through various external and short-lived sources and when the moment we dream of finally arrives, when we finally achieve fame, achieve a certain amount of money, or experience the desired pleasure, we finally stop, think, and understand that we should accept the thought:
I feel the same as before.
But if we ask ourselves questions:
- Can we change the lens we use to look at our flaws?
- Can we use our shortcomings to help someone?
- Can our shortcomings become our biggest advantages?
There are opportunities to understand how our imperfections drove us to achieve things we never thought we were capable of doing, how they were our greatest motivation to achieve our proudest achievements.
Therefore, sometimes loneliness is just what we need. It is precisely this state that allows us to meet the person who has been with us all our lives – ourselves When we take the opportunity to help others through our shortcomings, when we learn to accept ourselves and become our best friend then it is not difficult for us to be alone because then we are never lonely.