How much do we know the persons that are around us? Often, after a while, we tend to label a person? She is behaving in this way. He is so and so. Sometimes we even say that someone is not behaving in his own ways. We start to see the patterns of behavior of that person and we say that we know them well.
But what if that is a lie? What if there is more to it? When a friend does something unexpected we suddenly think that he or she changed somehow. But what if we just didn’t want to see that part of them? What if by following our need for security we imposed a projection of a picture that we wanted to see? What guarantees us that we actually know the person that we are looking at?
Therefore, was it all just an illusion?
This thought brings us anxiety, but we can look at it another way.
We all want to grow as persons. We all have a need to be mature and to see things clearly. So we want to change. We want to try to understand ourselves better.
And if we want that to happen we have to see ourselves as a mystery. And if we are to ourselves mystery that brings that other people are also a mystery.
And we suddenly see things that we didn’t see before, we see a whole new person.
We see that one is not weird, but authentic.
That one is not cruel, but honest.
That one is not shy, but careful.
That one is not boring, but caring.
The observed person is changed and as a consequence, we are changed. And as we are changed we see some other parts that change us. And it starts to loop.
We return what we had from the beginning. We remember the unknowing. We mutually grow. Instead of anxiety, we gain interest and awe.
So think about it: How much do you actually know the people around you?